She Carrie Bradshawed him…

It all started when my brother started dating this girl. Let’s call her Jenny. Jenny and my brother let’s call him Tommy, fell quickly in love. Although none of us knew why. We all just watched their relationship like a slow moving accident waiting for them to explode. And did they.


I love them both dearly, but separately. Very separately. Jenny is a free spirit. The type of spirit not meant to be tied down to a person or a place. I could easily see her wandering Tibet on a spiritual journey. Tommy is a carefree, but stable man.  Though he may not realize it all of the time he is a southern family man. Their life paths simply were not headed in the same direction.

But who cares when you are in love. They got engaged anyways. After a year of negotiation. *Hint to readers, your engagement should not require negotiation. *

They were engaged for a few months, when their friends threw them an engagement party. We walked up the steps of this beautiful New Orleans Row house and there she was. Just standing there with her engagement ring on a necklace around her neck.

The entire sub plot of Carrie’s engagement to Aiden flashed before my eyes. Is she really at her own engagement party and not wearing the ring on her finger. This is not seriously happening. Who does this? I wanted to ask her just to see if she would say that she wanted the ring to be close to her heart, like Carrie used to say.

How did no one else at this party notice? Maybe we all noticed and we just didn’t say anything.

A few weeks later she broke it off. My brother broke into a million pieces. How do you tell someone that you saw this coming, we all saw this coming?

There are things that happen in real life and things that happen on tv and every once in a while they both happen together in a monumental disastrous way.

Did that really happen? Did she really Carrie Bradshaw her own engagement party?


Yes it did.

My sister’s poetry

A poem written by my sister for her husband right before they got married:

The many acts of our two lives

Intertwined to a sensational simplification:

-All shall be well-

This is the comedy in our head at least,

While together we stride on

Trying not to be a damned soul, or a damned fool.

A duel to the death! An optimist’s revolt!

Ah yes, we have mastered the incalculable pleasure of perpetual crisis

And our harmony is too absurd not the be enjoyed;

This is love.

So we rise

To the contemplation of truth and flamboyant revelations

Giving treats to children along the way.

-Let nothing upset you, let nothing startle you, all things pass-

And if we went wrong?

“Fuck it, I guess we lost.”

Inspiration comes in many forms

I thought I would follow up yesterdays post with something inspirational. There are some truly inspirational women in this world. If you are willing to listen they have more to offer than most you can possibly imagine.

This was said by Mother Theresa. I hope that it gives you the much needed touch of love and wisdom that it gives to me.

People are often unreasonable, illogical, self- centered; Forgive them anyway

If you are kind, People may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.

Hate is cheap and easy just like your mom


it comes in many disguises

are you sure you can see them all?

It can be hidden in your heart

flashing on your tv

written into a joke

it can be the simple act of remaining silent




what hate are you ignoring?

Does it leave you feeling sick?


your problems have you in your own hole

and you can’t see out

is it dark in there?

What do you do when it rains down there in that hole?

Wouldn’t it be nice if someone would simply reach down and


you out?

Why is no one willing to help?

Where has compassion gone?

Oh I’m sorry I forgot compassion is too






All you need to know about staying healthy

Each month my school sends home a health letter. I have found it extremely helpful in maintaining my super fit physique. Now I must warn you this newsletter is only the most important health news in the nation.

Here are the sensational headlines from this month’s letter

1. Being a good friend- This is a list of ten ways to be a good friend such as “give your friends space” and “Talk about others positively”

2. How do you say I love you- simple ways to say I love you everyday such as” send an email” and “leave a note in their lunch box”

3. Heart Healthy Recipe tricks- These are some great tips such as” microwave and drain fat”

4. Hot dance steps for romance or fun- Everyone knows tap dancing is the way to romance with young men these days.

5. Putting your best foot forward- By which I mean how to find the best athletic shoes.

6. Germs don’t like people who wash their hands- You know what germs I don’t like you either.

7. Inner Hunger- A paragraph about eating disorders. Which are so simple they can obviously be explained in a few sentences.

8. Tax Preparation- Only prepare your taxes yourself if you think paying taxes is fun. How did they know I loved paying taxes. I have Tax day circled on my calender with a big heart.

9. Low Vision awareness month- What are the signs of low vision? Not being able to read signs, not being able to recognize faces, and not being able to match your clothes. Ha Ha maybe I need some new glasses.

10. Dental Disease in dogs and cats- Summary, clean your pets teeth.

One Love

What I have to say tonight will change you life

Are you Ready?

If you want your true inner peace. Life lasting calm and understanding. You need to raise a little cane. More specifically eat a little raising cane’s chicken fingers.

It is a local chain, by a local resident. Who doesn’t like local? The chicken is fresh never frozen. The lemonade is nectar from the gods. Oh and their is a magical special sauce. How special? They sell it as a side or you can fill a drink cup with it so you can take a shower in it if need be.

But why believe me? When a picture says it all?

How is it that they are the best chicken fingers ever made? Simple One Love. The only thing this restaurant serves is chicken fingers. It is simple, it is beautiful, and it is how life should be.

If only we could focus on one love. Truly focus on each thing in life as it is happening. Not worry about what everyone else is doing or saying, not worrying about the future. Simply appreciating each moment as one perfect moment that cannot be relived.


*photo from*


Let’s be honest

Let’s be honest

Do you even know how

to tell the truth?

When you look in the mirror

What do you see?

Are you proud?

If I were you

I wouldn’t be

Or have you gone too far

that you cannot see

who you are


Deep down

I know you are in there

That you don’t even believe the


you tell yourself

What happened?

When did you give yourself over to

anger and hate?

Why are you taking us all down with












You’ve never met me

Yet the thought of me fills you with hate

You are not perfect

Yet you want me to be

You bend the rules to fit your whims

Yet you hold firm the rules for me

You will never understand love

Yet I will always love you

You wish me harm

Yet I wish you peace and understanding

At the end neither you nor I will exist

Only what we taught others lives on

Are you leaving love?

Are you leaving compassion?

Are you leaving fear?

Are you leaving hate?



Peace, love, and hate

“When you judge someone, you don’t define them you define yourself” Dr. Wayne Dyer

This quote really stuck out at me today. Everywhere you turn people are judging others. From what they wear, how they speak, what they eat, what religion they believe, who they marry, how they raise their children, the list goes on and on.

It so much easer to just put someone into a stereotype and silently hate them then it is to get to know someone. You know genetically everyone is almost exactly the same, no matter what race, or gender?

I often fall into the idle gossip and snap judgements on people. Its hard not to. But why? Even as I tell myself stop get to know them. Sometimes its too late the judgement is made. Damn.

What would the world be like if we got to know people and based our actions out of love instead of hate?

Imagine the possibilities…..