I am at a crossroads world.
Do I ignore the people that doubt my intelligence and talk down to me or do I wow them with my accolades?
I know you cannot even imagine being in such a difficult life scenario. It is rough. I feel like I now know a tenth of what Hilary Clinton goes through in day. The woman can’t catch a break. The haters be hatin’ round the clock over my gal pal Hil. Oh you didn’t know we were besties? Totally. She totally just texted me.
I work in an environment that is old school elite and I am the new hippy kid on the block that couldn’t possibly know what they are talking about because I did not go to school there, have all my children go to school there, and work there for 20 years.
I am sure you are thinking I am simply talking about people critiquing my teaching, oh no my friends, they think I do not know anything about well anything. For example:
Coworker 1: My wife is looking for a new OB. Do you have any recommendations?
Me: Oh my god, yes. I love love love my OB. He is the amazing.
Coworker 2: No, you can’t use her OB. You have to use mine for blah blah blah reasons.
Me: Tries to say something positive about my OB
Coworker 2: No I know what I am talking about, you need to use mine.
Seriously? I am too stupid to be able to have a good OB now. Thanks I appreciate that.
Me: I really would like to take on more responsibility at work.
Coworker: But, you have kids. You don’t have time to do anything else.
Me: I am the only teacher in the department that has no extra responsibilities, I can handle it.
Coworker: No, No, No, you will be too overwhelmed.
How do I handle this? Do I just let it roll of my shoulder like a good little buddhist and understand that what someone else says and thinks does not impact me unless I let it? Or, do I stand up for myself?
How do you even begin to stand up for yourself when those belittling you are so closed off they do not hear a word you say?
Perhaps if they all knew I had secret ninja skills, can dance like no one is watching, have the ability to ignore Taylor Swift music like it isn’t playing, and that LeClown plans to teach me to fly; they would bow down in respect for me.
But then again who can handle knowing that much awesomeness about one person?